It’s not always easy to let go of the past. Sometimes, we may feel like we are stuck in a never-ending cycle of reliving old memories and rehashing past hurts. Other times, we may find ourselves ruminating over past failures or feeling guilty about things that are long gone. Why can’t I let the past go?
There are a number of reasons why someone might have difficulty letting go of the past. For one, our brain is wired to hold on to negative experiences more than positive ones. This is because negativity bias is an evolutionary survival mechanism that helped our ancestors avoid danger. Nowadays, this tendency can backfire and lead us to dwell on painful memories or fixate on things that went wrong.
Another reason why we may struggle to let go of the past is because it can be difficult to confront our own role in any hurtful situations. It can be much easier (and less painful) to blame someone else or downplay our own responsibility. However, this avoidance strategy prevents us from resolving any underlying issues and ultimately leads to more pain in the long run.
Finally, some people have a hard time letting go of the past because they believe that doing so would mean forgetting about important people or experiences in their.
Your Exes Rebound Is No Longer A Rebound
Letting Go of Toxic Relationships
Your ex’s rebound is no longer a rebound. It’s time to let go of the toxic relationship you had with your ex and move on. Here’s why:
1. You’re not together anymore.
This should be obvious, but it’s worth repeating: you’re not together anymore. Your ex is with someone else now, and there’s nothing you can do about it. Don’t try to sabotage their new relationship or convince them to come back to you – that will only make you look needy and desperate. Accept that they’ve moved on, and so should you.
2. The new relationship is different from yours was.
Your ex’s new relationship is likely very different from the one you had with them. Maybe they’re happier now, or maybe they’re just different people altogether – either way, it doesn’t matter why their new relationship is better than yours was. What matters is that it IS better, and there’s nothing wrong with that. You should be happy for your ex if they’ve found someone who makes them happy, even if that means you’re not part of their life anymore.
They Never Unblock You
All too often in our social media age, people are blocked by others without any explanation. This can be due to a number of reasons – someone may have said something that offended the other person, there may be beef between two people that led to one blocking the other, or someone might simply be trying to avoid an ex. Whatever the reason for being blocked, it can feel like a personal attack and it’s hard not to take it personally.
When you’re blocked by someone on social media, it can feel like you’ve been rejected or cast out from their life. It’s natural to want to know why they did it and what you did wrong. Unfortunately, in most cases, you’ll never get an explanation from the person who blocked you. And even if you do manage to get an answer from them, it’s likely that their reason for doing so won’t satisfy you.
This lack of closure can be incredibly frustrating and make it difficult to move on from the situation. If you find yourself obsessively wondering why they never unblocked you, here are some things to keep in mind:
1) They May Have Moved On Themselves
If someone has blocked you on social media, there’s a good chance that they’ve moved on from whatever issue led to them doing so in the first place. They may have forgiven whoever they felt wronged them or come to terms with whatever happened between the two of y.
It’s Been Months And All Of Your Pictures Together Are Still Up
It’s been months and all of your pictures together are still up. Why can’t you let the past go?
We were together for two years and now it’s been four months since we broke up. I moved out of state for a job, but every time I come home to visit, your pictures are still there. On the fridge, in the living room, on your nightstand. It feels like you’re taunting me, like you want me to see them and remember what we had.
I try not to look at them, but they’re everywhere I turn. And it hurts because I know that you’ve moved on and I haven’t. I can’t let go of the past because it feels like if I do, then I’m really admitting that it’s over. That our relationship meant nothing in the end.
I know that isn’t true, but it doesn t make it any easier to see your pictures with her. The girl you replaced me with. The girl who is now living in my old house, sleeping in my old bed, wearing my clothes… It feels like she is rubbing salt in the wound every time I see a picture of the two of you together.